My Libertarian Perspective on Life.

My Libertarian take is simply this: If you are comparing your life to Bill Gates or some other mega rich person of course your life looks like shit. Now compare your life to some family in sub-Saharan Africa, now it looks great. Bill Gates compares his wealth to Jeff Bezos and thinks that he's poor. I compare my wealth to my neighbours and think that I'm doing fine. Jeff Bezos's wife left him, his life sucks. My Dad is happily married, his life is pretty good. I'm single and lonely, my life is pretty bad. But if I had someone, would that magically make my life better, or would there be relationship stresses? Who knows. Maybe my life is ok after all.

I'm severely dyslexic, and I have a lot of trouble learning many things and I have a terrible short term memory and frequently loose track of whats going on around me, so my life is bad. But then again, I'm otherwise healthy and I found a job I can do well enough so maybe its not bad — after all, I don't have any life threatening illnesses and many people do. So my life is good.

I didn't want to be trans, being called a faggot when I was growing up wasn't something I deserved. I wanted to be just a normal person. But I wasn't, and when I pretended that I was, I just ended up with a life wasted on depression that nearly ended too soon too many times. Some people will still hate me for being trans, even though I did everything I could to not be — how is that fair? What have I done to them? Nothing, of course. So my life is bad. But then again, those people are a tiny minority, and I have good friends, a decent job and I'm closer to my Dad than I was before I came out. So my life doesn't sound that bad, actually.

Some people are very rich, therefore I am very poor — that doesn't seem right, does it? After all, I rent an apartment in a nice, safe area of town, I'm only 15 minutes from work, I have heating when its cold, and air conditioning when its warm. I have access to more food and water than I could ever consume. I have fast, stable internet and plenty of entertainment should I desire it. That doesn't sound like a poor person. Hell, my car rests in heated, underground parking, totally protected from the elements — even my possessions have it better than most people alive today. So Jeff Bezos being rich has not made me poor. Actually, I get most of my clothing and electronics from Amazon because he offers products in my price ranges — I just hunt around until I find a product I want that I can afford. I cannot afford a fancy Canada Goose winter jacket, but I can get one that's pretty nice from Walmart that will be good enough to keep me ok during the winter — I can layer just fine.

So my point is this: its contextual, someone, somewhere, has it worse than you, and someone, somewhere has it better than you. You have a hand of cards that you must play, and that's all there is to it. I started off poorly, and it wasn't until I was nearly forty that I managed to position myself somewhere where I could get my depression managed and begin to think clearly about how I am to overcome the remaining challenges in life. I used to be very obese, now I'm at a healthy weight and taking care of myself — I did that, it was my willpower that did that. I was having employment problems, now I have stable employment — I forced myself to learn an entirely new trade. I was a closeted transsex person suffering from suicidal depression, but I overcame the fear and took the steps necessary to begin transition and now I'm no longer suicidal.

If you see yourself as victim then you'll be one, however good your life circumstances are. If you surround yourself with weak people who will seek to drag you down to their level, then you'll be gradually brought down by them. But those are situations that you either put yourself in, used as an excuse for failure, or allowed to happen. Not everything in life is fair, and sometimes things happen outside of your control. This applies to everyone, whether you are aware of the circumstances of others or not. Your lack of awareness of the troubles of other people does not mean the absence of their troubles. What have you done to justify your own success, exactly? Attended a class? Paid a college or university to give you a piece of paper? Or have you really done the work to make improvements to your life, or did you assume that once you paid for your paper, that you'd be let in a mysterious elite club of highly successful people? Did someone make you buy that expensive phone, or did you just really want it? You know that you could have gotten by just fine with a less expensive model, but you wanted the status of having the latest.

Some problems are just bad things that happen to you and those simply be endured, but most problems that most people have are consequences of decisions they made that they probably knew were poor choices, but justified to themselves. Is the object of your ire guilty of genuine unfairness, or is it really just envy? How honest with yourself about your shortcomings are you really?

Important things to think about.

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